Foreword: Today’s piece is gonna be a raw one, but it comes from the heart and I write it with love and compassion.

This isn’t going to be comfortable. I’m not here to motivate you with feel-good quotes or tell you everything’s going to work out. I’m here to ask you some questions that you probably avoid asking yourself.

This might piss you off. Or it might wake something up inside you. It comes down to how you decide to react to this. But I promise you, if you’re after a fulfilling life, this step can never be skipped…start or skip, it’s up to you.

What Script Are You Following?

Here’s mine—or at least, it was: Wake up. Get ready. Eat something. Go to work. Do the work. Look forward to getting off work. Get home, maybe go out for a bit. Come home. Surf some entertainment. Sleep. Repeat.

Regardless of how much money I made, that was the script. Every single day.

And you know what I realized? Yesterday was the same as today, and tomorrow demands the same. Nothing in that script had anything to do with the vision I had for myself. Doing this over and over again simply leads to the same thing.

Plus, how can I teach my kids about striving to reach your potential, daring to dream and become your best self, when I’m not even doing that.

I am doing what others expected of me though, including my family…and that’s the problem.

If you’re simply doing what’s expected of you by others, every day, you’re not alive. You’re following a script.

The Conversation You Avoid

So let’s have a real conversation. Just you and yourself. Nobody’s watching. Nobody’s going to know your answers but you. I certainly won’t unless you want to share. So don’t lie to yourself.

What’s stopping you from pursuing that side business? That main business? The lifestyle you always dreamed about — since you first have a vision for your life?

Let’s get raw: List every excuse that comes to mind. Write them down. All of them.

Got your list? Now stare at it.

Is any of it permanent? Is any of it actually unsolvable? As in, every single person in the world who faced that same obstacle was stopped by it and nobody ever figured it out?

Common Excuses — And The Truth Behind Them

• “My life is fairly good compared to others…”
• “I don’t know where to begin, how to start”
• “What if I fail and lose my job?”
• “My kids seem pretty happy like the other kids”
• “Now is pretty hectic, I’ll need to clear up my current plate first”

Read those again. Slowly.

If you’re truly happy now, and okay with extending the present until you wrap up your journey, then that is absolutely great. Truly. You don’t need to do anything else.

But if something feels off, even a little bit — if you know there’s a bigger version of your life out there — then you need to stop the self-deception.

Remember, “good” is the enemy of “great”.

And look, you don’t need to quit your job tomorrow. You don’t need to go all-in on some untested dream. Just start using your 5-9s outside your 9-5.

What Changed for Me

More than a decade ago, I had that same uncomfortable conversation with myself. My day-to-day was predictable. I was following a script. But nothing in it aligned with the vision I had for my family — or the life I wanted to teach my kids about, and hypocrisy is against my being.

I wrote down every excuse I had. Looked at them. Realized none of them were permanent or unsolvable. It was just me — putting off on taking action.

That moment changed everything. I’m not claiming to have it all figured out, but I can say with confidence: I’m genuinely happy with what I’ve built so far and have been honest with myself. And now, my fulfillment comes from helping others shorten that same learning curve — so they can build lives they actually want to live. I even wrote up the core philosophy behind what it means to be financially free first, you can read that here.

Your Choice

You have a choice right now. Actually live your life. Or accept the life assigned to you and keep following the script.

The longer you put off this conversation with yourself, the less time you have to live that life.

So is it going to tomorrow, the day that never comes, or is your life important enough to set aside 10 minutes today?